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I love women... No Matter How Many I have...
That's never enough!!! - Olivier Westbourne

The greatest frustrations, the most painful times came through my pursuit of women. There were periods in my life, especially in the late teens and early 20’s where I just could not make it work.

These periods of frustration were replaced by periods of abundance. It was just so easy to meet girls. For some reason they become much more approachable, they would throw themselves at me, they were more open sexually. Life was such a joy.

What I found was that my struggles with women were of my own creation. The times of abundance always came after a period of personal growth.

This section of website is about my journey, about my personal growth, what I did to break through. I share my thoughts, my learning's and give you tips so that your journey can be just as exciting, hopefully you will be able to climb higher than I did.

I share this not to impress you, but to impress upon you what you are capable of. My desire is for you to realize that you are the only person who is responsible for your successes. I want you to find your own inner player, adapt this to your own unique personality and enjoy the fruits of your labor as you unlock the potential of your personal power.

The Pre-Teen years: We Are All Naturals

Our genetic code is to reproduce, we are all born with this desire to reproduce. With the unique characteristics that make up our personality, one is the natural skill and deep desire to reproduce. As young boys, even before we know why women are so intriguing, we instinctively go about unleashing our natural skills so we can be with women.

This is evident if left to our own devices, away from parental influence. Parents tend to be one of the first influences that can fuck up our chances later in life.

Fortunately for me, my parents left me to my own devices when I was 8 by sending me away for a two weeks camp. During these two weeks I went from one girl to the next. The following year I met my first girl friend, as opposed to girlfriend.

The Teenage Years: Developing Your Social Skills

In our teenage years our natural instinct becomes such that we want to meet and seduce girls.

From moment to moment we find ourselves in all kinds of situations. We are constantly making decisions. We start with

Desire to meet women;
Our experiences. The sum result of all our previous decisions;
We look for answers. How will we meet girls?
We try what we think will work;
We evaluate what happened;
We interpret this evaluation;
From this interpretation we make a decision;
This decision determines our successes.

This is a continuing process that happens from moment to moment. The importance part of this whole process is the way we interpret each situations.

If you interpret it for the opportunity that they are, then you will grow from strength to strength.

But if your interpretation is negative it will set off triggers where you look for reasons why what you tried didn’t work. You start to take it personally and the decisions you make will stop you from succeeding the next time you try. This whole process becomes habitual to the extent that we become unaware of the decisions we make. For example; the only way to break up with a girl.

If not corrected, then this sends you into a spiral were you start to doubt who you are. Then you look for reasons to justify your lack of success and soon you have given away all your personal power.

This is what happened to me.

After I immigrated I found it hard to adjust to my new environment. The development of my social skills suffered because of the choices I made. The lack of these skills were to hamper me for decades.

Even though I didn’t develop my social skills, the natural player in me was still alive. I instinctively knew what to do the first time I approached a group of girls.

But this didn’t last long.

Influences That Shape Our Life

The journey of life is like a puzzle with millions of pieces. We know that these pieces all fit together to give us one clear picture. Throughout this journey you are searching to put all these pieces together. The way you do this is through trial and error.

You are the sum of all your previous decisions. These decisions have been made through the way you interpreted the moments of your life. You are always asking your universe for something. Your universe is responding by putting you in the situations where you learn the answers so that you can get what you want. You are exactly where you need to be right now.

It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you interpret it and the decisions you make that determines your future outcomes. Understanding this process is one of the universal secrets that help you put the pieces of your puzzle together.

In any moment of any day you find yourself in situations. You interpret then make a decision.

But the interpretation you make is based on the influences of your life. There are millions of influences in your lives. Some of these include:

Where you are born: I was born in South Africa. It’s a dangerous place where getting home alive is an achievement. I grew up in Australia where it is safe.
Religion: Do you have or have you been exposed to religion?
Parents: Is your father a good role model?

Life changes in a moment. It’s just a matter of how long it took you to reach that moment. Life changing moments are so significant that they are easily remembered. Two of these moments that suffocated the natural player in me were the interpretation of my first approach and the interpretation of my first girlfriend.

Had my interpretation been different, then the decisions I made would have been different. This means that the outcomes of my life would have been different.

Inner Conflict Is Good If You Are Listening

Making decisions that appear not to be serving you is actually a blessing in disguise.

When you set a goal you put your universal mind to work. It is always working towards achieving your goal. It does this by putting you in the situations so you can learn and find the ways to achieving your goal. There is a way things are to be done. Just like making a loaf of bread, there are ingredients needed and an order to make the bread.

When you decide to create something into your life (set a goal), this sets off a whole string of thought patters that dictate to you the actions to take. The actions you take determines what happens. There is a learning process that we go through. Trial and error.

This is what is happening. You are continually looking for the recipe. You are getting the answers, but you are not always listening.

This is your opportunity to grow as a person. This is done through seeking the answers to the questions as to how you are going to solve the problems that are keeping you from creating your goal. As things happen to you and as you evaluate what happened you make your decisions that determine your future.

This evaluation process often leads to self reflection. You ask yourself how you can achieve your goals. The answers come flooding in. So much comes in that you often miss the message. So you try what you believe is the best thing to do to get these answers.

You start to get answers. You take action on these answers and grow as a person. This is personal grow.

Warning: This is when you are most vulnerable. It’s human nature to look for the easiest, quickest, least painful path to take. Sharks know this and prey on you. They promise the world and deliver on nothing.

If your goal is important to you, then there is a learning process. No pill will overcome this.

Some of the answers that came to me directed me to a lot of personal growth. I learned the tools to use so I could achieve my dating goals. Mentors like Anthony Robbins came into my life. Actions that I took was to go to the gym and build my body.

As you continue to pursue these answers, as you continue to grow things start to happen. It might not seem so if you analyze it moment to moment, day to day, however under the surface things are happening. Things happen till eventually there is too much weight and in a moment things change. This is what happened to me that led me to the greatest period of my dating life.

SBI!