If I Go For My Goal, There’s An Internal Conflict That Something Bad Will Happen!!!

What Do I Mean?

For instance, your favorite celebrity might be Sandra Bullock. When you look at her life, one thing that jumps out is the pain caused when Jesse James cheated on her. This happened around the same time that she won the best actress Oscar and her first Academy Award for her role in the ‘The Blind Side’.

What you observe is her at the height of her career, which should be one of her greatest moments in her life, and at the same time the pain of her cheating husband. It becomes very easy to draw the conclusion that for her to win the Oscar, something really bad had to happen.

By making this observation you have by association created a mental block, an internal conflict that will automatically filter out the steps you need to take to achieve your goals.

But you have to realize, you only have seen a snapshot of their lives. You have made an association that becomes a mental block for you based on a fraction of information about their lives. This mental block becomes and internal conflict that stops you from achieving your goals.

What Is The Association?

By making this association, you automatically invite it into your internal programming. It becomes an internal conflict for you. So every time you are close to achieving a high in your life, this internal programming is triggered and you sabotage yourself automatically. You don’t even know why you have done so.

For example, you are close to achieving a new high in your life, you can feel this in your body. This then triggers the association you made with the pain that was caused in someone else’s life when they achieved a high in their life. The perceived pain is too much for you to bear, so you choose to sabotage yourself rather then achieving you goal. This is an irrational fear of the pain that is unlikely to happen. You're often not even aware of this because it happens in your sub-conscious.

After trying a few times and continually falling short of your goal, you reason that you are not meant to have this in your life. As a result you settle for less than you can achieve. It becomes a downward spiral where the passing years make you bitter with life, and this shows up in your body as dis-ease.

Why Does This Association Work Against You?

We are programmed to avoid pain. So as your internal programming sorts through your information, it looks for similarities. In the above example, a similarity is that Sandra Bullock reached a high in her life by winning the Oscar and at the same time her husband Jesse James cheated on her. You see cheating as pain, this triggers your internal programming and the internal conflict in you avoids the pain by not achieving your highest goal.

The problem is that most of us have been programmed to look for pain.

Society Has Been Set Up To Program Us To Look For Pain

This is because you won’t watch it if it didn’t move you in some way. The more sensational, the more emotions it brings up for you.

People are more forward in letting you know what is wrong in their life. They will complain and complain loud. They are less forward in telling you what is right in their life.

This is what you are continually exposed to. So it becomes part of your expectations of life.

So if your boss is to call you into his office, most people’s programming first goes to the negative area of their mind. What did they do wrong!!!

But This Doesn’t Have To Be The Case

When watching the news it becomes a challenge not to make associations that hurt you and creates internal conflict. When you see a celebrity at the height of her career and a cheating husband at the same time, make an association of what is great in her life.

For instance, one way I can think of this is that Sandra Bullock didn’t want to live a life with a cheater. As such, she allowed the information of his cheating to surface. This gave her the information to separate and move on with her life. To move forward to even greater achievements...

It doesn’t matter if that's the way she sees it, what matters is the association you make.

What Is Your Focus On?

This is what Train Your Brain is all about. Becoming aware of these associations. When you become aware, you can change them. Then, the next time you are in that situation, you will realize it for what it is.

In the case of Sandra Bullock, she married a cheater in Jesse James. That is it!!! Wrapped in this marriage are lessons that can take both their lives to even greater heights, should they choose to learn the lessons.

How You Change Your Associations?

So if you see someone whom for some reason triggers dislike of any kind, realize that most of the time it is your internal programming and your internal conflict. Finding the internal program that triggers your response is you catching the associations.

Catching it means you can change it.

Understanding this means that you don’t have to have something bad happen to you in order for you to reach your goals.