Natural Game vs Learned Game

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Natural Game vs Inner Game

My brother has natural game. I have learned game. What is the difference?

The difference is night and day. In an earlier post I mentioned that I did the Seduce and Conquer bootcamp. I was away for a week. During this week I met 7 women and almost had a threesome.

My brother asked if he could borrow my unit whist I was away because he has a long term girlfriend and they have a child together. He and his girlfriend also have an agreement that he can sleep around. So he does. And during that week he told me he bedded 7 women, and had a threesome.

But he only told me months after the event. He was at my place and looking through videos on his mobile phone when he recognized that the same bed sheets were back on my bed.

He showed me the video. She was about 20, half his age, naked in my bed, and she was super hot.

What is natural game?

The inspiration for this article came when my girlfriend told me that my brother was such a flirt. Her interpretation was that if she wanted to, then in her opinion it would be on.

We had recently been away on a family weekend. The whole family was together for three days. The reason why my girlfriend thought he was hitting on her was because whenever she had a shower and was coming out the bathroom, my brother was ready to go in. And on one occasion he tapped her on the ass.

But what it made me realize was that if you are a natural, the game is always on. As a natural, I think you get to the stage where you don’t even realize that you are still playing, you just are. Game becomes part of who you are. You just end up being at the right place at the right time.

Things such as rejection and approach anxiety just don’t register. You don’t analyze the situation; you don’t analyze what the girl thinks. You are just there and when you are there than anything can happen.

But the most important thing is that a natural is just being friendly. He wants to understand more about the person he is communication with. That is why he ends up being in the situation he finds himself in.

What is learned game?

Learned game is when you find the strategies, mindset, techniques and anything that has worked for other people on a consistent basis. These strategies, mindsets and techniques are broken down, dissected and analyzed. The end result is that there is a step by step process that should work for you.

Unfortunately these strategies, mindset and techniques originated from naturals. It is their personalities, who they are. It is unique to them. You have your own unique personality. So it becomes very hard for you to implement these strategies.

What is the difference?

We are not all the same. Some of us are introverts and others are extroverts. Most of us are somewhere in between. The way the introvert recharges his batteries is by being by himself whereas an extrovert recharges his energies by being around other people.

Being an introvert vs an extrovert has a huge effect on the way you go through life. An extrovert seeks out people, an introvert seeks to be by himself. Some people might define an extrovert as outgoing and an introvert as shy.

As an example: when my brother used to flat with friends, whenever his flat mates would go out for an evening, when they got home, he would get out of bed and find out how the evening was. Even if it was 2am and he had to work the next day. For me, just keep quiet and let me sleep.

What does this all mean?

Because an extrovert seeks out people to recharge from, he easily becomes socialized. He naturally puts himself in the situations where he naturally learns the intricacies of communication. Not just with women, but in all situations.

An introvert does not. He is content to think things through, be with himself. And because of this, he doesn’t need women as much an extrovert does.

So the main difference between natural game and learned game is that a natural naturally puts himself in social situations, and learned game needs to put himself in social situations.

Does this mean that if we are not naturals then we have no chance achieving natural game?

I believe we are all born with natural game. As we grow up we are influenced by the people around us. First by our parents, then schools, church etc… As we take aboard these influences they become part of our belief system.

The problem is what your peers were teaching you and why? More often than not their influences came from their limited beliefs and in some cases they were manipulating you. They thought they knew what was best for you. The result was that you lost your own unique personality, stopped being who you are, what you are capable of.

And this is the biggest challenge for those of us who don’t have natural game. Because we are not putting ourselves in social situations, we are not challenging our belief systems as we should.

Because a natural is always in social situations he naturally unlearns the negative teachings from his peers, whereas an introvert has to put himself in social situations more often so as explore and realize and release the limited beliefs that were taught to him by his peers.

Example of natural game

A few years ago my brother and I had a big fight. After the event I was happy to let it slide (the character of an introvert), but because he needed to resolve it (the character of an extrovert), we went to the pub to make up.

I had been studying game for a few months and I wanted to impress my brother that I could approach. So I went up to two girls, opened the set and hooked it. A few minutes later my brother came into set. As he did so, one of the girls shot him a look that would freeze hell over. I felt a lump in my throat and was getting ready to bail.

I politely turned back to my girl to finish the conversation. I was ready to go when I turned back to my brother. The girl who had shot him that look was happily looking at pictures of his son. I saw the filthy look as a filthy look. As a natural, my brother knew how to turn this filthy look around.

By the end of the evening my brother and I were holding court in the middle of the bar and the girls were all approaching us. I would like to think I had a lot to say in this, somehow I don’t think I did.

You can change

I know I have spent my life fighting to be more social. I have specifically chosen jobs that have forced me to be more social. But, I still prefer to recharge by spending time by myself.

There is a PUA by the name of Zan. I haven’t spent much time studying his material. But from what I can gather, he would be called a natural. There is a story that for his 40th birthday he had 6 or 7 of his ex-girlfriends give him a lingerie party. But what is interesting is when you find out about his early attempts at meeting women he did it all wrong. The example he gives is when he met a girl and begged her to stay, standing by the window of her car.

In my situation, I have had many times when my natural game came out. For instance, I got to the stage where just by the look a girl gave me I knew it was on. There have been so many times. The trick is to spend more time in natural game.

Conclusion

If you are an introvert and you want to have success with women, you have to go out. You have to put yourself in social situations. You have to start to pick up on the communication signals, body languages and subtle looks when in these situations.

The best thing about the learned game is that you start to challenge your belief system. These belief systems that are holding you back. You get to see what you are capable of and what it will be like when you have your moments of natural game.

SBI!