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Negative Belief Filters
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| Decision: The definition of decision means to cut off from all other possibilities. |
We make a decision based on what we believe to be true. These decisions form our belief system.
Our Actions Are Determined By Our Decisions
Every action we take plays out till an outcome is reached. These outcomes build upon each other to create an even bigger outcome.For instance, if we make a decision to take the action to put up an online dating profile, this action plays out. There are many ways this can play out. For one person, they can try once and never get a date. This is their outcome.
| Your actions always play out to an outcome. It’s up to you to determine the outcome. |
For others, continuing to refine their online dating profile will see them date many girls. You can take this as far as you like, I have a friend that specifically targets Asian girls in their late teens and early twenties. He dates about 3 girls a week, some are new, others he’s only know for a few weeks.
Not All Decisions Serve To Move Us Forward
Some of the decisions we made in the past do not serve to move us forward today. These can be called negative belief filters.They are called negative belief filters because the function of making a decision is to fast track the information you receive in every moment. In other words, the function of making a decision is to create a filter to filter out most the information you receive every moment of every day.
| The function of decision making is to fast track the meaning made in any given situation by filtering out information sent to you by your sub-conscious mind. |
The problem with a negative belief filter is that by fast tracking the information and filtering it out, you don’t allow the step by step instructions you have requested you sub-conscious to send you to surface.
Why We Create A Negative Belief Filter?
Some negative belief filters started out as positive filters. They were created by us so that we could move forward with our life at the time that we needed them to do so. They are decisions we made in the past at that time to protect us. We needed to do this at that time to survive and get beyond that situation.For instance, if you had a particularly bad break up with a girl in the past, to help you move forward you might have made the decision never to fall in love again. The pain of not having your expectations met could have been unbearable at that time. Back then, you needed to make that decision to move forward, however, years later that negative belief that you will never love again might be holding you back today.
Running your life with that past decision today might result in shallow relationships, relationships with the wrong girl or perhaps no relationship at all.
| The function of a negative belief filter is to give you time so you can get the resources you need to move forward the next time you find yourself in a similar situation. |
That decision could have been made to give you the time to find out where your expectations were not met and allow you to get those resources you need so that the next time you are in a relationship you can navigate through and create a positive result in your life.
To move forward with your life, one very important thing needs to happen, you need to at some stage change your decision from a negative belief. In the example above, the decision to fall in love again needs to be made to experience all that wonder that love brings.
The Problem With Negative Belief Filters
The problem is that as time has passes we have hold onto these negative belief filters that no longer serve us. This prevents us from achieving our highest goals. Sometimes we fight with passion to hold onto these negative belief filters.We have become comfortable with the security of the predictable result these decisions bring us rather then confront the excitement of the unknown we would have to face by making different decisions. Fear of the unknown stops us from even questioning these decisions.
| What is your relationship to the fear of the unknown? Have you made it a debilitating fear that holds you back, or have you made it an exciting adventure, full of possibility. It’s a choice, and only you can make it!!! |
Tip: Rather than beating up on yourself for the negative belief filter, acknowledge it for being there when you needed to and moving your life forward back then. Then let go if it with all your love and replace it with an empowering positive decision.
Where Do Negative Belief Filters Come From?
In the past we encountered situations that we needed to navigate through in order to move forward with our lives. We did not have the resources needed to navigate us through that situation. We needed to learn how to do so.We looked around for the answers and then made a decision based on what we observed. From this we put a meaning what happened. It’s this meaning that determines how we react when in a similar situation in our future.
They are the decisions we made at that time in order to move forward with our lives.
These are the decisions we made with the resources we had back then. We did not have had all the resources back then then we do now.
For instance: having a bad breakup in the past is because your expectations were not met. Your expectation might have been that she needed to be faithful and she cheated on you. In your reality of your world, this was unforgivable. However, in her map of her reality, she might have not valued sex as much in the relationship. So cheating didn’t mean as much to her as it did to you.
You didn’t have had the resources to comprehend this and it resulted in massive pain. So you made a decision never to fall in love again. This decision is to protect you from this massive pain whilst you get the resources to make sure it never happens to you again.
Getting those resources will help you understand the value system of women you date in the future so you don’t date girls who have a different value to cheating as you do. Getting the resources you need helps you move forward with your life and fall in love again. But if you don’t you are likely to continue to go from one cheating girl to another.
How We Make Decisions
Decisions we make come from different sources. They are the meaning we make when we find our self in a situation. They are our understanding of that situation from the resources we have accumulated throughout our life.| We are all responsible for the decisions we make in our lives. As such we have nobody to blame for our situation then ourselves. |
Often we put trust in people whom we believe we have the best intention for us. In the early stages it’s our parents.
As we leave our nest, we encounter all kinds of people. We get lessons from teachers at school, our religious teachers etc…
These people share their beliefs with us. If we believe they have more knowledge about that situation then we do, then we sometimes take aboard their belief without even questioning it.
One of our greatest sources of decision making comes from what we observe. Often parents tell children how bad it is to smoke cigarettes however they openly smoke this in front of their children. The children make a decision about smoking more from what they observe then what they are told.
Sporting stars are one of the biggest influences on our lives, as is what we see on television and in the movies.
At any moment of every day we are exposed to so much information. We are continually making meanings from this information. If we are in a new situation, our mind sorts for that that is most similar so we can make a meaning.
For instance, when I was travelling with a friend of mine, she would always say that this part of a new town she had never been to remind her of someplace back home. She was sorting the new information to make a meaning so that she could move forward with her life. We all do this!!!
The Problem With Negative Belief Filters – They Keep You Stuck
The problem is that some of these decisions we made back in our past are no longer allowing us to move forward with our lives. They become part of our belief system. In other words, we are stuck.| Belief system: A belief system is what we believe to be true. |
As time passes we experience more of life and along the way we gather new resources. The decisions we made in the past with the limited resources, we still put the same meaning on this today and make the same decision. Because we have made a decision, we have fast tracked the filtering process and don’t allow the entire message to come up to our consciousness.
It's in our consciousness that we make our meaning and from this the actions we take. If you are continuing to make the same meaning when in a situation, you will continue to take the same actions and get the same results.
Can you see how you are keeping yourself stuck? We have filtered out the possibility of making a new distinction and hence a new meaning before we even allow the benefit of the solution to arise to us from our universal mind.
Role Of Our Parents
Our parents are our first teachers in life. They are responsible for getting us through our first few years of life. As such, they are also the first ones to put their belief systems onto us.Because we are young and don’t know any better, we automatically take aboard their belief systems. Some of these are very valid, don’t put your hand on the stove so you don’t burn yourself is a good thing to teach children.
However, we are in a world where we are progressing so fast. Just think of the amount of progress we have made in the last 100 years... Your parents are likely teaching you some of their belief systems that are outdated.
Mummy’s Boy Syndrome
When we are younger we still have so much to learn about life. Our first role models are our parents.Our parents all have lived their lives and created their map of their reality. They pass onto us their perception of what they think is best for us. Unfortunately, sometimes this is not the case.
I often see parents overprotect their children because they don’t like to see them in pain. The problem with this is that it takes away the child’s ability to respond when in this situation.
As an example: when a parent sees his child being bullied at school, they are quick to step in and fight the battle for their children. At that time, this helps the child move on with their lives. However, in the future when the child comes across another bully and their parent is not there to protect them, they don’t know how to respond. This leaves them vulnerable to bullies.
Had the parent rather then step in and protect the child worked through with the child to solve this problem, then the child will grow up capable of handling bullies in the future.
I know in my case, my parents realized that I was susceptible to being bullied due to my size. At a very young age they decided that I needed to learn self-defence and sent me to judo. As a result, I was never bullied at school, mostly because being an expert in judo gave the other children the perception that I was able to protect myself.
| Point to note: Never blame your parents for anything, no matter how bad you think they were. They were doing the best with the resources they had. Even if they taught you something that was incorrect, they exposed you to the opportunity to learn. That is a gift in itself. |
Our Universe Continues To Put Us In These Situations
One of the problems we continue to face is that we will continue to find ourselves in the similar situations so that we can learn the lessons to move forward with our lives. This is why we continue to find our self in the same situations, time and time again.It’s only when we learn the lessons that we no longer find ourselves in these situations. We have learned how to navigate ourselves through this situation. In other words, we make a different meaning and thus take a different action.
One thing to be aware of!!! You will continue to find yourself in more intense situations in the future so you can learn the lesson. Your universe is screaming out to you to learn the lessons. It is screaming out louder and louder to let you know the answers. This is why you might feel as if you are under more pressure / pain in your life. If you get it, then you have learned, the lesson is over and you move forward with your life.
If you don’t get it, sometime in the future you will come across a similar situation with the lesson wrapped in it, however it will be even more intense then the time before.
Train Your Brain
This is what Train Your Brain is all about. It will help you catch those decisions that you made in the past that are keeping you stuck.You will realize that these are the decisions you made to move you forward at that time, however are no longer serving to help you move forward with your life today.
As you catch these decisions and negative belief filters, you’ll make a different meaning. This will automatically change your interpretation of what happened. This will serve to move you forward with your life, expand your experiences and take your life to a new level.
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